How can communication problems be overcome when dating
With time, you might think you know what your partner is going to say, but unless you’re genuinely psychic, listening attentively can get you a lot further.
A good trick for active listening is to recap what you just heard to confirm that you got the right information. In a relationship, one person’s problem is the others.
WHAT HE SAYS: "If you feel undervalued, ask for a raise."WHAT YOU HEAR: "Ugh, your problems are so simple--just fix it."WHAT HE MEANS: "Work's bothering you? " The truth is, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers in romantic relationships, and so what comes across as condescending can actually be your guy's way of trying to help. In short, cut to the chase and you'll get more of a reaction.
WHAT HE SAYS: "I didn't tell you about the layoffs?
"WHAT YOU HEAR: "My job's in jeopardy and I didn't even bother to tell you."WHAT HE MEANS: "I didn't want to worry you." Don't take his "forgetting" to fill you in on his job situation too personally.
Most men don't like to advertise their fears or what they might perceive as weaknesses--especially to the person they feel they need to protect (that's you).
Both of you spend a lot of time getting to know each other.
The truth is, nobody, regardless of their gender, is ever really totally rational.
Trying to be more empathetic to the viewpoint of the opposite gender can only help strengthen your communication, and your relationship. Remember communication problems happen at both ends.
Relationships are one of the first things that all of us take for granted. But yet, we forget how much something really matters to us when we don’t stand to lose it.
And it usually takes losing something to realize its importance and value.